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MA Top 12: A Lot Can Happen in a Year (S3 Ep.1)
Hey Ma! We’re hitting rewind and spotlighting our "MA Top 12" — the standout episodes from our first three seasons of Moms Actually. From October 12 to December 28, don’t miss the moments that defined us. Join us as a we take a trip down memory lane as we prepare for Season 4.
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We take a nostalgic trip back in time, reminiscing about our first encounter just a year ago, and the community we've fostered through this podcast. Each message from you, fills us with a renewed sense of purpose, reminding us to press on.
Transitioning from entrepreneurship to conventional roles may sound daunting, but we're here to share our experiences and insights.
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- imposter syndrome
- recognizing divine guidance in monumental decisions
- balancing career shifts with motherhood
- the importance of pursuing your dreams and finding the right support.
- listening to your inner voice, taking calculated risks
- creating room for personal growth are paramount.
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I really wanna know you. I'm watching you. Hey mom, what's up? Hey mom, what's up? Hey mom, what's up? Hey mom, what's up? Hey mom? Hello, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back to Moms. Actually, blair, how you feeling? I'm feeling good. Season three, season three, can you believe it? No, because we just were here last year. Last year, I don't know if we were. It's insane If you don't know who we are. You're like who are these two red and white? You're like who are these two red and girls? I'm Morgan and I'm Blair.
Speaker 1:Yes, and we are back for season three of Moms. Actually, it is so insane to be here, and I feel like we should just get right into it. I think so too.
Speaker 2:I'm so excited and to do some through the show and the flow.
Speaker 1:Yeah, let's just get right into it. It's giving motherhood, it's giving motherhood, yeah. So what we do is we do a little bit of an icebreaker. If you are an OG, you already know how this goes and you're probably like we're in the paddles. We're gonna turn it up on you Just a smidge, we're switching it up and we're just gonna do a little bit of a rapid fire situation. Okay, okay, yep, let's go. So this time I'm just gonna say a word and you give me a word.
Speaker 1:And the first thing comes to mind Now what has not changed is the first answer is the right answer.
Speaker 2:Always, okay, always. So I'm gonna start it, you ready.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right. Rihanna.
Speaker 2:Mommy inspiration. Wow, I agree.
Speaker 1:I need one, I need one.
Speaker 2:Stacations I love those, I love those. Work-life balance Doesn't exist.
Speaker 1:To you or, okay, social media Necessary yeah. Mompreneur, multilevel marketing scheme that's what I was thinking, what, sorry Okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. Sorry, no shape, but shape Mom's actually.
Speaker 1:Oh, mom's, actually what's the word Us?
Speaker 2:Yeah, opportunity dreams. Yeah, I think of everything. Yeah, I think of everything. It's just.
Speaker 1:The way Mom's actually like. I feel like Mom's actually not only represents us, but it also represents our audience and our community, like the people that we've built through this, like it's been a year, yes, and all of the people that have you know started following us and said me too. All the DMs, all the messages that we have received and it's like this all makes sense. Yes, and it's the reason why we're back. Yes, Because it's doing exactly what we wanted it to do.
Speaker 2:I feel like Every single message like keeps you going because like especially social media we're talking about it's necessary, or what have you. And it seems like everybody's doing the same thing or doing a lot of things, and it's just every single me too. That's why we're here for season three. That's why we'll be here for season whatever season, a hundred or what have you.
Speaker 1:Season a hundred. Yeah, there's always going to be a space for this. I agree, I think it's insane.
Speaker 1:I have been recently just kind of like reflecting, especially because we're at the beginning of the year quarter one, and you know, we're always just like kind of looking at what we're doing this year and even versus last year, and everyone does it all the time, right, but this is so significant because just last year, we started this and I just and we met each other. Yeah, like we didn't know each other before we started. So if you guys are just like just starting to follow us, this is something new. Fun fact, if you will, is we literally met March, march 2022. Yes, and now I feel like this is my sister, like I feel like this is somebody that I do life with in all ways, not just business, not just the show, but I really do love you and I'm just so appreciative because it's it's something that we can do together.
Speaker 1:No-transcript. I feel like you were an answered prayer in so many ways. Oh, same 100, like 500% Like can you, where were you at, like I know we both talked about it when we were kind of just getting together, but where were you at mentally and emotionally and physically last year, before we, like, started this versus now?
Speaker 2:Before we started this, I was actually kind of getting out of a role that I had taken. So I worked with Maverick City Music and I had come on as their chief operating officer, which was a step in itself, because I hadn't worked formally in so long. I've only worked for myself for like the last five years, so taking on a job, whatever the background is, I took on the job and I was like, why am I taking a job where I had to show up to other people's meetings and do XYZ? But the crazy thing is that, yes, is why I can do a lot of stuff for moms. Actually, I had to learn production, I had to learn to put on writing camps, I had to learn the financing and the budget and like get fresh in all those spaces, and it's everything that we do here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's insane.
Speaker 2:A lot of the connections I made everything so it's like I was in a place where I was coming out of, I said, entrepreneurship, going into kind of a nine to five, where I was like why am I doing this? And it was like I was so unsure of myself when I was coming into it because I'm coming into this high-position job working with all these men or what have you and they're all expecting such high things for me, and sometimes I have like imposter syndrome. I'm like I'm not 12. Y'all?
Speaker 1:are listening to me, Like you guys believe the things that are coming out of my mouth.
Speaker 2:And so I think that gained my confidence and it brought me here, and I'm so grateful for that it's so funny you say that because for me I was like getting over a job loss.
Speaker 1:And but that job loss that I did have, it taught me everything that I'm doing now. It taught me how to, like, really put the grit you know, and really also believe in myself because creatively I wasn't in a space before then to do all of these things and I didn't believe that I could do any of these things, and it kind of taught me like, okay, you do have that you know strength and you can trust yourself a bit more.
Speaker 1:And I feel like it was also last year. I was in a place of really just kind of challenging God. I was in a place of saying God, if I'm supposed to be a voice to women, specifically mothers, you have to tell me. And it was immediate. And then I met you and we took off March 8th March 8th 8 means new beginnings, yeah, and exactly that happened. I think we both listened to where we are in life, because even with this season, if we think about it, we knew how long we needed to wait, in a sense, and how it just thank the Lord, it kind of panned out that we were still able to start on the time that we wanted to, but we didn't rush things. We all we honor each other's seasons in both of our personal lives and I think that that matters because we're able to say, okay, my kids need this, I need this and like now, we can do this.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean. Yeah, and I'd also say God, period, because honestly, especially before this season, everything in my life was saying oh, you can put this off or you don't need to do this right now, or maybe this was the wrong time. I promised you the enemy would give me every reason to not do this actually, and so, but it's like but I know the enemy's voice versus God's voice. Like, clearly, I knew I had to do it, but I had every fleshly whatever reason to be like nah, dog, not right now. And I think that's what happens. I think we can get so inside of our head. There's always a reason not to do something. There's always multiple reasons not to do something but you only need one reason to do it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's so true.
Speaker 1:I think it's also like honoring the seasons and like where you are in life, while also listening and discerning, and I think that's actually even why it's just us two here right now and not three.
Speaker 1:We do miss our soap, so so much, but it's about like learning your transitions in life and saying, hey, like the season that I'm in this is not serving me and I can listen to God's voice and obey, because God honors obedience and it doesn't always have to be bad. I think we sometimes overthink it and we're like, oh my gosh, like if I do go this way or if I don't listen to this, then it might. It might feel more on the negative side, but, like you said, knowing God's voice versus the enemy trying to trip you out, because I think we could have done that, we could have been like, oh my gosh, we only have two now and so maybe we should not, you know, that's it but really knowing and discerning what God is saying, and we know that he breathed on this entire thing, and not only that, but we still love and talk to Sopa all the time. So it's like all transitions don't have to be bad, and I think that's a good point.
Speaker 2:I think sometimes it's like, oh, you're sustaining something and maybe you're not supposed to. We've all been in seasons longer than we're supposed to, and so. But we want to show that we haven't given up and God's like dog like this is just a parry for this Like why? Are you still doing this, so I think it's also listening to. Okay, now this season is over, and trusting that, and that's what Sopa did.
Speaker 1:And you know, and we got a friend out of it Like so we used to follow for a year. Right Now, she's just our friend.
Speaker 2:Our regular friend.
Speaker 1:Our sister. Yes, it is absolutely beautiful. I would even love to know, because she's super like engulfed in motherhood right now and she's like paying attention to her boys and all of that. But how has that been for you? Like our kids are getting older now and we're like parenting and having to deal with different woes? I know for me, the preteen life right now it's welcome.
Speaker 1:It is insane. Shout out to Leila, yeah, shout out to you, Leila, but yes, it's just bringing different challenges. That I'm not sure. If I wasn't, my head wasn't on straight, I would even be able to do something like this. So how are you like? Are you the same thing?
Speaker 2:The balance like his help, like doing moms actually actually makes me more purposeful in my parenting because I'm like, oh man, like I don't want to do this whole thing, this talk show, and then have my kids watch it one day and be like that's not true.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, like, oh, you have all this advice, but you did this up, but you didn't do that with me, so I'm a lot more aware of how I'm handling myself, because I'm also like, if someone asked me a question, I can't give them advice from a place I'm not actually doing. So I feel like I'm more purposeful in my parenting and in my reactions. Does it mean I'm perfect? No, I'm like, I'm like I'm doing five times out of 10, but I notice it and I address it and I get better for the next time. So I think it's helped me in that way. And then it's so cute because every time I have my phone, especially if I record them, they just say is this for moms actually? Yes, or they'll be like hi, moms actually. And then I do nothing with that stuff.
Speaker 1:It's okay, we've got a lot of stuff in Noble, saying hey moms actually, you know what, even that?
Speaker 1:like Blair, I have seen you blossom, like it has been a beautiful, beautiful thing to see each other from the start and us being kind of like nervous and, you know, kind of second guessing ourselves in the show and how we are giving, because it's not about perfection. It's truly about showing you guys like hey, we're just like you, we're trying to get it right and I think it's a good thing to be able to see our journeys up close and personal. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Especially like watching you Like I know I joke and call you should night because you are she tough when she tough. But yeah, like seeing you like season one, because I don't know if you guys know this, yes, we got some production here, but I'd say 95% of everything behind the scenes is us. Yeah, it is us. Yeah, like the planning, the logistics, all this stuff till we get on set. It's mostly us, like it's our brain power. We're figuring things out and then making sure that it's something that we love and that we're invested in, because you can't expect anybody to be invested in it and think you're not Certainly, yeah, I would say so.
Speaker 1:I think another question we get often is how? Like how did you, how do we start and how do we keep going? And I know that we kind of talked about that a little bit. But I think the pursuing your dreams and like pursuing that, yes, every single time is so, so hard sometimes, especially when you're in the midst of parenting and motherhood and you're looking at your kids and you're like, no, they need me right now. Yes, absolutely, but we need us. You know what I'm saying and I think whatever you have I would say before I even throw it to you is whatever you have. Someone else needs too. And I think, of course, honoring the season, like we talked about, and balancing and making sure that your kids are still good and taken care of, but like, really the whole key in pursuing your dream is to start.
Speaker 2:Yep, to start and then not Expecting to start to look like the end.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And then kind of just obeying God with the end, because I think we start and this is another reason why things in you start Something and you only got 200 followers and that's not enough. That's like, oh my god, if this was actually good, I'd have three thousand follow, and that's something. Even I have to like remind myself to check with us, because I've always said since the beginning, it's about the one, and once we start worrying about like 5,000 or 10,000 doesn't mean you don't appreciate it and it doesn't mean anything. It's just you. You start trying to please everybody instead of doing it for the original reason.
Speaker 1:For the original and we almost were there, one we were, we were all this season we almost Changed the whole thing.
Speaker 2:We almost had the bright neon background. We were like that's what the people like, that's what they want. And then we were like that's not what God told us.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's true, like being able to really rely on what God told you, being able to get close to him and a lot of people I know the question is gonna be like how do you know God told you that relationship? You know really being able to get close to him? Because I think I know this from this time last year to actually this year. Yeah, I have leaned on God's voice like never Before, because the faster and the higher we go is like More of a need for God and more of a need to go back to that same voice that told us to say yes in the first place.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, is how I think we would know yeah, I agree, but my question so when you, when we were starting moms, actually I know you were working somewhere, yes, and so I would say like, and then you left that job to do this I did. So it's like how do you start something new? I'm like, when there's a risk involved, because you got kids, you gotta take care.
Speaker 1:You know what, honestly, that was a really, really like hard thing to do, because I had already lost Before and I was already in such a like dark place, and then I was trying to get on my feet and it just so happened that we started this and I was like, well, morgan, does that make?
Speaker 1:sense like and I think it's also its wisdom, and Sometimes the things that God has for you don't make sense, yeah, but using the wisdom to say no, god, I know that you're gonna provide, and that's exactly what I did. I don't have like a huge like oh, I heard this specific thing, it was hard, and it was actually hard pretty much all of Nothing.
Speaker 2:But I think that's important because I think people see things and think everybody's like. You know, thousand years, a million you know making all this or what have you, because we show the best sides in the positivity online Because you're not gonna go online saying I can't pay this bill. That like who does that? Yeah?
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think the thing is I, I want to say like, yes, we make it beautiful, but we make it beautiful because you guys deserve that. Yes, there's no space. You know what I'm saying? There's no space Really, that intentionally make things beautiful for women, and for moms specifically. And so, whether you're on your couch, whether you're on your way to Work or whatever you're doing, we want you this to be your safe space, we want it to be serene, and so, no, it's not always pretty on our in. It really is it. And I think that's the beauty of even saying like this time last year I was in one place and Now it's just totally different. And it's not all the things are fixed. No, not at all. But my faith is stronger and even, like I said, looking at you, I just I get a little emotional. I'm not going to do this. I get emotional because I love seeing you grow, I love seeing you bloom One of the things you have been posting flowers a lot oh, yeah, a whole lot.
Speaker 1:And y'all know how they say like give, we want to give you your flowers. Like you know, don't wait for something tragic to happen or don't wait for something significant, but like when you see your sister and when you see your like friend doing something that is outside of their box, outside of their character, that's pushing them like give your sister her flowers.
Speaker 1:Like really, really like make sure that you cheer her on, because you don't know how hard that is for her and so for you B, I really want to. I really want to tell you how grateful I am to have a front seat of your journey, to watch you bloom, to watch you, like, do stuff. That's not because I look one thing about it.
Speaker 2:I will push Blair yes.
Speaker 1:And I'm like, look, you got to do this. And she's like, okay, never done that before, but I'm going to do it.
Speaker 2:Because I can't dance and y'all see me doing these little crazy. Oh no, no, no, flowers. I was about to make a joke saying, and here are the flowers and there are going to be no flowers. I hate you, so I really want to give you your flowers.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much Because I love you. I love you more, and I think that's what sisterhood is about. I think it's more than just saying it, it's more than just you know, like doing the phrases, yeah, but really like noticing, and I want to be able to tell you publicly that I see you, I know, I tell you all the time but I see you and I'm so proud of you.
Speaker 2:I have way too much black eyeliner on my eyes to do anything. She's like we're going to keep it together. I was so ready to make a joke, so I'm getting in right now. I was ready, you know.
Speaker 1:I'm just the, I'm the joker. I know she's probably like in her head. She's probably so upset with me because this was not planned at all. She had no idea.
Speaker 2:No, I look like the loser. It's like it's like when it's your anniversary and like one person gets the gift and you had said like nothing. And then yeah, no, no, no.
Speaker 1:You have no idea all the things that you have done that have blessed me in so many ways, and so I just want to say thank you. I'm so excited to do this journey with you, to keep all these people and building this community with you. I wouldn't want to do it with nobody else. I'm so excited, so I love you so much. I love you Y'all. Thank you so much for being here with us on this journey. Continue to share, give your sister her flowers, and we're excited for this season.
Speaker 2:Very excited for this season. I cannot wait for you guys to see what is ahead. We have some, like all types of moms, ready to share their stories and we can't wait to get your comments. We want you to share with other moms and make sure you subscribe and you know share, you know tell them mom to tell them mom.
Speaker 1:Tell a friend to tell a friend. All of that, yes, so we're excited. Thank you so much for watching moms Actually, see you next week. We're motherhead moms, it's so good. Hey mom, let's fight. Hey mom, what's up?
